What we have learned from social research on dating is helpful – not least because it often contradicts what single people are anxious about. Westerners can expect to spend 1/3 to 1/2 of their life single or looking for a relationship (see data from here and discussed more here). The average age for heterosexual marriage (in UK) is 34 for men and 29 for women (this report also highlights how many people are single for larger parts of their life than in the past). If you try internet dating you’ve a 1:10 chance of getting a date and going out with them more than once a month if use internet dating. You’re also equally likely to end up in a happy long term relationship regardless of whether it started as a one night stand or emerged through a period of dating.
The article covers everything from pick-up-artists, to finding ‘the one’, to using science to improve your gentle wooing power. Report from Petra Boynton here.
This label pathologises what may be free choice of self-expression. This not an illness.
All mixed up linked in the logo at left, is one of the more balanced and well thought out sites on psychology and gender identity, with a section devoted to autogynephilia - male arousal by the idea of oneself as a female.
Over the years I have worked with a number of heterosexual couple's where cross dressing has become a deal breaking issue. Where both partners are willing to find a safe passage though the turmoil, an emotion focussed couple's therapy is likely to get to the heart of the matter.
Scientific American's May edition covers some of the material of the third gender, revealing how diverse the human species is.
As one of the edition's readers comments: "The vast majority of TG persons are rather uncomplicated heterosexual crossdressers with wives, children and successful careers. http://www.tri-ess.org/ (Society for the Second Self) serves this largest segment of the TG community." The society serves CD's their partners, spouses and families.
