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But it's not so simple, that sort of 'quiet hour'. It has to be learnt. A lot of unimportant inner litter and bits and pieces have to be swept out first. Even a small head can be piled high inside with irrelevant distractions. True, there may be edifying emotions and thoughts, too, but the clutter is ever present.

So let this be the aim of the meditation: to turn one's innermost being into a vast empty plain, with none of that treacherous undergrowth to impede the view. So that something of 'God' can enter you, and something of 'Love' too. Not the kind of love-de-luxe that you revel in deliciously for half an hour, taking pride in how sublime you feel, but the love you can apply to small, everyday things. Etty Hillesum An Interrupted Life: The Diaries of Etty Hillesum, 1941-43, p.27.

On this site:

• First know your elephant - what is mind
• Why meditate and how to meditate sitting
• Being one's own best friend, sitting in the joy and in the full catastrophe of life's wild ride with lovingkindness

• Manifesto of a clear mind and how to write a manifesto
• Embodied meditation - being bodies and opening to the poignant enormity of life
• Tonglen meditation - a powerful method of applied compassion to deal with the previous two challenges

• Forgiving - sometimes you have to let go before you can move on
• Yoga Nidra - a method of deep relaxation to recover from the previous three
• The Resolve in meditation - a gentle way of addressing core beliefs and setting life goals

• Antar Mouna - a thorough method using thoughts as the focus of attention in meditation practice instead of breath alone
• Tantra - indulgence with awareness
• Impressions in mind or samskaras in yoga vedanta psychology
• Etymology of the words we use for our senses

• The sacred - religion and ritual free

On other sites:

• How to meditate
• A Carmelite view - 'prayer is basically "the breathing of the soul"'
• Walking meditation - description and stages of the practice
• Chi Kung - meditation
• Distance healing

• Vipassana - meditation
• More from Jack Kornfeld: 'Even the best meditators have old wounds to heal'
• Articles about the benefits and challenges of mindfulness meditation from Shinzen Young

  ‎We must decide to look at ourselves and experience ourselves honestly. Some of us find ourselves in the most wretched and profoundly degrading situations. Some of us may have brilliant and good situations happening. Whatever the case may be, whether our exploration brings hope or fear, we look at ourselves. We need to find ourselves, face ourselves, and beyond that, give up our privacy, our inhibition. Chogyam Trungpa