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1.0 The necessity of blame for forgiveness

    • "To forgive someone, you must blame someone
    • Blaming means that you conclude that someone is accountable for causing something to happen, and
    • that what happened was wrong
    • Blaming answers the questions Who? and Why? ‘Who hurt me and why did they do it?’" Beverly Flanigan
    • More of Beverly Flanigan's tools for blaming the injurer from 'Forgiving The Unforgivable'

2.0 Web Resources on blame

  • A dharma cartoon about getting even
  • A buddhist view of blaming by Lama Zopa - we do it because we don't like suffering
  • The serial bully at work
  • A good scapegoat is almost as good as a solution
  • THE expert blamer is one diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder
  • Blame as an expression of anger over an issue of fairness and justice
  • Richard Bandler, one of the founders of NLP, playing the blame game
  • Hitler's blaming techniques from an NLP perspective [if Hitler link broken download here]
  • Misdirected blame requires the support of psychological defence mechanisms
  • The blame game in the school system
  • All of the book 'You can choose to be happy - rise above anger' on line, free
  • Chapters 1 & 2 of 'The Surrendered Wife' on line, free and equally provocative,
  • blaming men doesn't stop domestic violence

3.0 Victimology

4.0 Resilience

5.0 Intractable Conflict

 

 
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